she/they, non-binary transfeminine individual based in Berlin

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Cake day: June 19th, 2023
  • Madlaine@feddit.detoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•What's the most basic thing you can't do?
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    23 days ago

    Well, my brain seems to be affected by it according to that test (difference score of 11) if I interpret the scale correctly

    But well, I also got autism and quite a few other mental conditions and learned all my life to cope quite well with all my disabilities; that’s why I specifically outsource direction question to a visualization that make the answer more tangible for me than listening to my intuition.

    But well, what works for some doesn’t necessarily work for all. And probably my other conditions have some influence on it as well. We’re all different, after all; even if sharing a few traits.

  • Madlaine@feddit.detoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•What's the most basic thing you can't do?
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    23 days ago

    I get that. My intuition often mixes both up, too.

    That’s why I trained myself to say “driver-side” and “passenger-side” in my head when left or right come up. To a point where I don’t even have to think about thinking about it. I just visualize which side of car is meant instead of the rather abstract concept of left and right

    Might not help you; but it helps me

  • Madlaine@feddit.deto196@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Truth rule
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    25 days ago

    Not OP, but yeah…

    There are a few mental/neurological conditions that lead to a big adversion against ordinary recurring tasks.

    (In my case it’s PDA; but it’s something that I see across multiple neurodivergent spectrums, as well as in people with depression)

  • Madlaine@feddit.deto196@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Rule
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    2 months ago

    But yeah I’m ~235lbs/106kg guy, and I don’t like how I look most days in the mirror in a boring t-shirt and shorts, let alone trying to be desirable, so I’m kinda setting myself up mentally for disappointment. We shall see.

    Sounds like me a year ago xD

    Try find something that suits your figure; fem clothes can be quite good at camouflaging and distracting from problematic areas if one gets the right stuff.

    And it drastically boosts self image when you found clothes you feel comfortable in, even if only in certain situations.

    And my personal experience in case you don’t like your face (I didn’t, but I’ve got gender-related dysphoria in that regard): these femboy-cat-face-masks; wear them if you try out or take pictures in dresses. Allows you to focus on the clothes instead your face. After you found clothes you like with that mask on, you might take a look at some basic makeup. Nothing too fancy, but a bit of foundation, powder, minimalistic eyeshadow and mascara can do wonders.

    But essentially: Try it! Do yourself a favor and try it! I wish I would have given in sooner instead of always thinking “nah, won’t suit me anyway and I will just look like a dude in a dress”. Wearing stuff like that played a huge part in realizing who I am.

    (And it gave me a reason to loose some weight. 103kg->88kg since December)

    And obviously: Should you find out in the end that fem clothes are just not your thing; that’s fine as well! But if the idea was already in your head: try it -

  • Madlaine@feddit.deto196@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Rule
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    2 months ago

    Just do it.

    There are many large people that look beautiful. You have to search for the right clothes.

    I assume from your comment that you’re maybe a bit chubby; that’s no shame. Many chubby people look wonderful in fem clothes.

    You maybe should go for something more comfortable than the sexy secretary look, but (unless your suuuuper overweight) there will be something that’s suiting your figure. Just google some guides for transfeminine clothing and try some stuff. Many of us wanna wear feminine clothing while having similar issues. A love for food is not depending on the gender ;)

    Btw: My personal recommendation are long black skirts from the steampunk/goth/pseudo-victorian niches. They often have enough accessories and other highlights to distract; and they don’t look all that bad if one is a bit larger

  • Madlaine@feddit.detoProgrammer Humor@lemmy.ml•The code was very janky, but it worked
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    4 months ago

    the is_even package does not provide much worth indeed because it simply negates is_odd and thereby all its benefit.

    It’s dependency is_odd on the other hand provides at least some additional checks (it also checks if the value is a valid integer below the max int value)

    And while I would indeed see uses for such methods (especially with the other checks, no simple oneliners) in some cases, especially in testing: This is stuff you write yourself, throw it in a e.g. NumberUtils class and everything is fine. You do never depend on an external library for that. The benefit (not spending a few seconds to write it) does not outweigh any of the drawbacks that come with external libraries.