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Cake day: July 12th, 2023

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  • My fiance always tells me how much she hates me complaining about things and not doing anything to improve it, and i think that’s a fair point. She has had to continuously tend for herself, fighting health care, education system and society to get by. And that really made me understand that complaining without doing anything is both priveleged and stupid. I have more respect towards others than trying to force Linux down their throats, but just complaining and ignoring a solution, even if all the circumstances line up perfectly, is just dumb. Complaining is justified, not doing anything or pretending you can’t is not. That being said, the Linux community is obnoxious and, in many cases, has the worst case of superiority complex, although i do believe we have gotten way better at that and are way more welcoming now than before.








  • I understand your concerns. I see it alot aswell, thankfully my experience on Lemmy has been way more constructive and understanding.

    I can see why my post seemed to be constructed in a way to create drama but I genuinely just wondered if i missed the joke or if it was misogony, nothing more to it. I dont know how, but i missed the entire “put the bit in the drill part” and my head just summarized it to “girlfriend is going to drill a hole -> i panic” which seemed very confusing to me and not what im used to on here.

    Also seeing the community was based around Twitter kinda helped my brains stupid narrative since that place is its own forest fire.

    Anyways, sorry for the confusion, thanks to everyone for clearing it up, and have a nice day 🙏





  • Pardon me for not properly reading. I did not want to assume misogony yet this is what I am commonly accustomed to around me. After reading the explanations and re-reading the post it is indeed “just me who is stupid”. Not trying to cause controversy or drama, just literally curious to what I asked. Probably should have made sure I understood the original post before commenting. Thats on me, so sorry about that.








  • Honestly, a bit fucked up your dad takes control over who you date and spend time with. But as the others said, you can atleast go there for a free meal and hopefully make a new friend. I do understand the weird pressure this would put on you though. I hope all goes well, and dont feel pressure to pursue a relationship if youre not feeling it. Your dad cant be the deciding factor in that