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  • DessertStorms@kbin.socialtoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•[Serious] Why do so many people seem to hate veganism?
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    6 months ago

    And some just see those who militantly focus on attacking fellow individuals instead of the systems that are actually to blame (but which they otherwise support and/or benefit from, like capitalism, racism, and ableism) counterproductive, annoying, and hypocritical.

    The militant vegans I have come across, and being vegan myself, it’s a lot, far too many (E: to the point I actively avoid vegan spaces), are almost exclusively drowning in so much privilege, they can’t see how ridiculous they’re being in their bizarre militancy of policing other people’s plates instead of the actual industries abusing animals (and humans, who these vegans rarely to never pay any thought to, not out loud or in their actions, anyway).

    (before I even hit send: if you feel personally attacked by my comment - that’s a sign for you to think about it with yourself and ideally do something about it, not try and prove me wrong, inevitably proving me 100% right)

  • DessertStorms@kbin.socialtoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•[Serious] Do you know of any processed snack foods with some vitamins?
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    6 months ago

    While I’m autistic and have my own issues with food, we’re all different and have our own lists of “safe” and “unsafe” foods, so I don’t have any specific advice other than please, please don’t listen to the people who want you to abuse your child by either forcing, or withholding food.

    Post this in an autistic group if you want to hear how well that actually works (that’s actually the best advice I can give in general - follow autistic people and spaces, listen to autistic adults who have been there and know what your child is going through, and, often with the opposite intent, the damage their parent or guardian or doctor or “therapist” did to their mental and general health and wellbeing because they were treated as “poorly behaved” neurotypicals, instead of the neurodiverse individuals that they (we) are).

    E: even if it turns out they aren’t autistic, forcing and/or withholding food is still just as shitty a thing to do.

  • DessertStorms@kbin.socialtoShowerthoughts@lemmy.world•Since 2016 the general publics knowledge about narcissism and manipulation has increased significantly.
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    6 months ago

    No, what there has been is an increase in an already prevalent phenomenon (see: mass shooters) of blaming mental illness and/or personality disorders for abusive, violent, and flat out fascistic actions, when they don’t actually cause those, it’s just so much easier to do than to think more deeply and/or critically about the systems and structures that don’t only enable, but encourage such behaviour, especially in those with privilege and power (because actually mentally ill people are much more likely to be victims of violence and other abuse, than perpetrate it).

    Using diagnosable conditions as shorthand for “abusive” or “toxic” or “harmful” or “violent” or “racist” or whatever else, is ableism. It deepens already existing and harmful stigmas, prevents people from seeking help and support and being open about their struggles, and actually puts them at greater risk of further abuse just for being diagnosed the way they are, even if they’ve never hurt a fly.

    In short:

    “Are you saying that murderers are right in the head??”
    No there’s definitely something wrong with someone’s way of thinking if they can justify killing innocent people, but this doesn’t necessarily mean that they have a mental illness.
    Extremist beliefs isn’t a mental illness.
    Bigotry isn’t a mental illness.
    Entitlement isn’t a mental illness.
    Hate isn’t a mental illness.
    Having a dysfunctional moral compass isn’t a mental illness.
    We need to stop categorizing all these things as some undefinable “mental illness” and start looking at what we do as a society to develop and justify these things to a degree where people use them to justify killing.
    Yes!
    Dehumanization is something you Have to look for. If the murderer doesn’t see the person they killed as a person, then mental illness is probably not the main factor there.
    Plenty of people murder women, poc, lgbt people, people of other religions etc. because they don’t see them as people.
    Think about genocides - they aren’t perpetrated by big group of people/a government who all got mentally ill together the same way at the same time somehow, they just didn’t consider what they did murder because they didn’t see the victims as people.

    Source

    In more depth:
    https://www.zillennialmag.com/post/when-narcissism-becomes-an-ableist-way-of-discussing-toxicity