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Cake day: June 8th, 2023

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  • A) There is no hive mind. That’s just you perceiving a bunch of people who happen to hold a similar opinion as a monolith, and that’s an illusion. You have no data whatsoever to support the idea that they’re thinking in concert or even have the same reasons for their reactions.

    1. Don’t take it so personally. They don’t know you, and they’re not attacking you by downvoting you. They’re simply expressing “I want to see less of this.”

    d) Instead of having a kneejerk reaction when you get this kind of response and immediately being defensive, step back and use it as a reflective moment. Maybe you misjudged the room, misinterpreted the potential impact of what you posted, or are simply on a different track from those who downvoted. What can you learn from it? Do you need to change your own approach, or do you need to reevaluate your audience?










  • Today I spent a few hours gathering the crapload of Nanking cherries that have ripened on my bushes. When we moved in, almost twenty years ago now, we used to call them bird berries because we didn’t know they were edible, but the birds seemed to love them. It occurred to me today that I haven’t seen a single bird eating them this year. Maybe the berries are plentiful everywhere, and they’ve just found other places to gather, but it was a sobering realization.



  • It’s rare that I manage to catch them when they’re ripe and the birds haven’t devoured them all. But the wet spring we’ve had so far has just made my hedge go nuts, and all the volunteers along the fence are covered in them too.

    In terms of resourcefulness, I wish I could claim that. But this literally just involves throwing a bunch of cherries in a big jar with a buttload of sugar and letting it sit in the sun for a month or two, throwing in some cloves and cinnamon halfway through. It’s about as low effort as it gets.