• dingus@lemmy.world
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    7 months ago

    This is one of the questions that gives me the most social anxiety when meeting new people. It stresses me out because I don’t have any conventional hobbies. I don’t think dicking around on Discord, Lemmy, and YouTube really counts as much of a hobby.

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      7 months ago

      I mean what Discords do you participate in? What Lemmy communities do you follow? What videos on YouTube do you like to watch?

      You can reframe this and say, “I like to participate in online chat forums about the latest gaming news and technology (discord). I look for cool recipes and cooking techniques (Lemmy cooking community). And I love trying to find new funny comedians to listen to (YouTube).” I think if you narrow it down to the interests you enjoy, rather than “dicking around online” you’ll find that you have interesting things to talk about.

      Obviously those examples are my own, but I’m sure you use those platforms because they feed you certain content that you enjoy.

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      7 months ago

      Someone else said asking what your current obsession is would be a good icebreaker. Do you think that would be better?

      I feel like that way nontraditional hobbies could be included so you could talk about things like Lemmy or whatever your favourite Youtuber is up to. Would that bring up the same level of anxiety?