Are there any Discord servers or somewhere in the Matrix to chat about hosting a Lemmy instance? I’ve got Lemmy running, but I think there are several of us in the same boat struggling with federation performance issues and it might be good to have some place to chat real time.
FWIW i see that too on several instances. I dont think it affects anything, just that the destination instance is not acknowledging you following it.
For example if you look at my subscribed you will see the following
But when i go to that page i get the following
And when i click to go the the instance page I get a 500 error, then it works on refresh. And my comments are clearly struggling to stay in sync.
TL:DR - I think some of the larger instances are overloaded its not just user counts and traffic, but also all the backend requests to sync with other instances which may be silently failing/timing out.