So this is kinda of a follow up from one of my older posts, but you can say im a child of a hoarding family but some of its my fault aswell. My mother believes we dont need an external help and that i can do it by myself as if its my problem, which bugs me and demotivated me knowing how lazy and annoying m family is.
Im here to ask what should i do, i would move out but i cant. I want to know the math behind how much clutter one person can get rid by themselfs, and how much time it would take. its not like the stuff you see on tv and theirs no rotting food but still. I also would like to know how to get motivated and stay motivated?
What would you advise i do?
I think that you’re looking at it from the wrong angle. You’re looking at the forest and in this case it’s the trees that you should focus on. If there’s no rotting food or other health and safety issues then the only time pressure is your own comfort and anxiety. Deal with that kind of pressure by breaking the task down into manageable chunks and prioritize.
How much can you do in a week? Would one room a week would be manageable? More? Less? How much you can do at a time is the lesser of how much time and energy you can put into the work and how much you can take away or have taken away in the given time period. Maybe you just work until the garbage can is full and then start again after trash day. Maybe you don’t fill the garage can but between cleaning, organizing, and selling stuff on eBay/Nextdoor/etc you use up as much time and energy as you can devote to this task in this time period. As long as more is going out than is coming in during any given time period you’re making progress.
Start with the areas that will make the most difference to you. Probably your bedroom, the bathroom that you use most often, kitchen, living room. Looking at it as one task, cleaning and organizing a whole house is an overwhelming task so don’t look at it as one task. Tackle the forest by dealing with one tree at a time.