So this is kinda of a follow up from one of my older posts, but you can say im a child of a hoarding family but some of its my fault aswell. My mother believes we dont need an external help and that i can do it by myself as if its my problem, which bugs me and demotivated me knowing how lazy and annoying m family is.
Im here to ask what should i do, i would move out but i cant. I want to know the math behind how much clutter one person can get rid by themselfs, and how much time it would take. its not like the stuff you see on tv and theirs no rotting food but still. I also would like to know how to get motivated and stay motivated?
What would you advise i do?
Fuck that. You didn’t make that mess, and they will set back any progress you make. Focus on cleaning out your own space that you control and that they can’t ruin. Sneak some trash bags into your bedroom. The day before trash day, bag as much stuff as you can, and try to sneak the bags out early in the morning before the trash comes. If you give them any opportunity to intervene, you’re going to get yelled at for throwing things out, or they’ll try to go through the stuff, or they’ll bring it back in the house. Any bit of their involvement is a no, because they’re not going to help you have a clean and healthy space.
Then do it the next week, and the next week.
Be ruthless with throwing things out. The fact that you don’t have a clear walking path means you have way too much stuff. That the stuff is sitting under piles of clothes and you haven’t touched them for months or years means they aren’t important to you.You can get a job. You can buy more things- things you actually choose for yourself and like. But you can also be intentional about it, fewer things but higher quality things that you actually can use and that make your life feel better.