Some background: Me - Late 50s male. Happily married.
My doctor: Ophthamologist. Attractive woman. 30-ish. Happily married.
Side note: I accidentally ran into her and her husband at a party about a month ago. Nice lady.
So, I went into her office yesterday morning for an appointment. When she came in the room, I noticed that her zipper was “XYZ” and her fly was totally open. Gaping open and pretty distracting. So, I try to make friendly conversation, eyes up.
As part of her job, she’s straddling the chair and equipment as she’s examining my eyes. Awkward. Continue eyes up!
I thought about mentioning “XYZ” to her, but didn’t want to come across as a creepy old guy that’s hitting on her. I didn’t want to embarrass her. So, in the end, I didn’t say anything, and she left.
So, is it better to say something, or not? I think she probably figured it out next time she went to the bathroom.
To not sound like a creepy old guy, start by not being one.
Like wtf, you are being so creepy about a fucking zipper! Even as I’m writing that I feel like your first defense would be something creepy like “I’m just a man, I can’t help feeling like that” or similar.
Man, it’s just a random person with a zipper open. She wasn’t flirting. If you were happily married you wouldn’t go drooling as soon as you see a woman with a zipper open just because she’s younger and “attractive” as if she’s nothing but a piece of meat.
You wouldn’t have felt so awkward if she was “ugly”, older, or a man; it’s quite clear from your description. The reason for that is that you are a creepy old dude.
And now all the sex obsessed creeps that feel targeted are going to downvote this because they feel offended.
Well yes, but I’d kind of extend that to being just a person, able to control my actions but not feelings.
OP didn’t say he was fighting his instincts not to bend her over and give her a good deep dicking because her fly was down.
I personally find any kind of close proximity with a professional of any gender or age to be quite uncomfortable.
I would find it even more uncomfortable if their fly was down or whatever.
I would find it even more uncomfortable if the professional in close proximity with their fly down might think I was being inappropriate by noticing that their fly was down - an outcome much more likely if that person is an attractive young lady.
That said, you have some odd ideas about being older and being married. I’m in my mid 40s and have been with my partner for 15 years or so. I still find people in their 20s and 30s physically attractive, just like I did when I was 20 . Also my commitment to my partner does not mean I am magically blind to attractive people around me.