Some background: Me - Late 50s male. Happily married.
My doctor: Ophthamologist. Attractive woman. 30-ish. Happily married.
Side note: I accidentally ran into her and her husband at a party about a month ago. Nice lady.
So, I went into her office yesterday morning for an appointment. When she came in the room, I noticed that her zipper was “XYZ” and her fly was totally open. Gaping open and pretty distracting. So, I try to make friendly conversation, eyes up.
As part of her job, she’s straddling the chair and equipment as she’s examining my eyes. Awkward. Continue eyes up!
I thought about mentioning “XYZ” to her, but didn’t want to come across as a creepy old guy that’s hitting on her. I didn’t want to embarrass her. So, in the end, I didn’t say anything, and she left.
So, is it better to say something, or not? I think she probably figured it out next time she went to the bathroom.
It’s only as awkward as you and the other person makes it, and you sound like you made it pretty awkward for yourself before even giving the other person a chance to be non-awkward about it.
The way I see it: If it’s something the person can fix immediately, like a downed zipper or food in their teeth or visible booger, tell them (discreetly) immediately. If it’s not fixable at the time, don’t draw attention to it.
And I dont know how “oh, you seem to have a zipper malfunction” could ever be seen as trying to hit on someone, so you’d likely have been fine if you hadn’t blown it out of proportion.
Additionally: if you start waffling about and overexplaing, youll make it awkward for yhe other person, if you just mention it casually like you’d mention the weather they won’t feel like its a big deal for you to have seen it. I would appreciate it at least, rather than notice by myself and wonder how many people have seen my underwear or visible booger during the day.