Personally I grew up being taught by a bunch of older 2nd wave feminists, so the messaging I received was a lot of “A woman is anything she wants to be.” Cue picture of Rosie the Riveter repairing a truck or something. I wonder if you maybe didn’t have the best relationships with the women around you growing up? Because personally, I’ve just always felt more comfortable with women. When I was a kid, women were more inclusive with me and easier to talk with, and I think the moments where women segregated from men, where it was just me and a group of grandmas in the kitchen or something, were really formative for the development of my feminine identity.