considering the topic of this community, it should be obvious who i’m referring to…some people never should have had kids in the first place, and arent worth the heart/headache of worrying yourself with…right?
edit/ i realize this actually might have been too vague, i mean having piece of shit for a father. when do you just giveup even bothering to keep that connection going?
Not a mom, but I’d like to pitch in.
Cutting off parents can be hard, because you might feel you owe them, since they brought you into the world and cared for you. You don’t owe them anything.
Or maybe you still feel some love towards them, which makes you hang on. And it is understandable, they are your parent after all. These emotions are complex and it is normal but confusing to feel both anger and admiration. Allowing yourself to feel either of them, doesn’t change the fact that they have hurt you or make your pain less valid.
When feeling a lot of pain, there is no way you will be able to work this out at the moment.
Your question reads to me like you at least need a break, which is an opportunity to process the pain. It sounds like it started way back in your childhood, so allow yourself time, as in years.
I wish you all the best.