She called him out for making inappropriate sexual comments online to someone she knew, who was 15 at the time. He ended up getting banned. This caused this man to develop a spiteful obsession with her because according to him, she is slandering him as a pedo.
A few months ago he found her social media and his obsession is now in full force. He’s boasted about mass reporting her, making false accusations against her, and replying to irrelevant Tweets with accusations in an attempt to stir up drama. She didn’t even mention him or talk about him, he just replied to random Tweets with confrontations and when she refused to engage, he replied again using his sockpuppet accounts agreeing with his own reply. He’s also said that he’s downloaded her photos to his computer (including ones that are a year or two old) and uploaded them to a porn site. She doesn’t wear makeup so it’s immediately obvious just by looking at her photos she’s under 18. When people confront him he uses DARVO tactics. On some sites he’s on he pretends to be civil but on his own site his motivations are much more clear. Several individuals in his friends group have allegedly either owned or defended CP.
The lengths he’ll go to in order to find every social media she has is insane and based on his post timings he’s often staying awake all night to do this.
And yes, she has reported him, but sometimes the moderation is useless and he’s very good at using DARVO to try and make it seem she’s the one harassing him. He’s also using sockpuppet accounts to make it seem like multiple people are making the same accusations when really it’s all just him.
Call the cops. Harassment online is illegal, and depending on the nature of the pics that part may be very illegal. Even if he somehow doesn’t have any legal consequences from anything he’s done so far, having police reports in place for stuff now will make it easier for him to potentially face consequences later.
Talk to a lawyer if it’s complicated, a few hundred dollars may get a consultation that can set you up for how to frame things in a way that makes it more likely that the cops will do something. But even just calling the cops and laying it out (read up on the laws, stay focused on stuff that’s specifically banned by statute in a provable way as much as possible, sometimes people want to “give context” too much) may be pretty productive.
Will do. I’m worried for her safety because like I said, it’s extremely obsessive and he’s written up about ten very long posts about her behind her back within the last 24 hours.
Apparently he’s done this to other people before and those people got police involved, which caused him to boast about how he’s “in the right” because the police closed the case.
Please make a report. Even if he had a previous case that was closed it will still show up and can help establish a pattern of behaviour which can make it easier to obtain stuff like restraining orders.
And make sure to talk to a lawyer, they can advise you much better than any answer you can get online. You can also ask the lawyer to make sure that any photos he may have uploaded to porn sites or watever are taken down.
Stay safe and make sure to tell the kid that she did the right thing speaking out. Hope it works out for you both.
Thanks a lot.
Yeah, I would take it seriously. Another alternative would be getting a protective order from a judge, so that he’s not allowed to do anything like this in the future. But it sounds like he has maybe broken the law already, so maybe do both. Bottom line, fuck him up.