No Stupid Questions@lemmy.worldEnglish · 2 months ago

How to validate myself?

No Stupid Questions@lemmy.worldEnglish · 2 months ago

I’m often disappointed with myself when I’m angry. It feels like, “a stronger person wouldn’t be mad at this” or “I’m fragile/insecure”. Anger has been the hardest emotion to live with; it just feels wrong.

I always need external validation from others during/after anger. And worse, I need an endless supply of it.

Learning to validate myself is the obvious solution but I don’t have a clue where to start. A self-help book would just sit on a shelf. Do you have any tips?

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I’m interested, who is the author? I found several books by the name
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  No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model Book by Richard C. Schwartz
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    awesome, I’ll start there. thanks for the suggestion

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