Maybe I’m a bit unhappy about some choices my parents have made. When I’m raising my children, I often notice that I find it a self-clarity to do things in a certain way because anything else would be hurtful towards my child, and then remember that that’s not how my parents handled the same situation and that I’ve been hurt badly by that. And then I am left wondering what the hell was wrong with them?!

But also, I am sure I am making mistakes my children will be angry for. I don’t really know which ones, although there are some I can already see when I look at my parenting years ago from the current perspective. I believe my parents have done the same.

Also, understanding how much a parent actually loves their child has been amazing. Understanding that that’s what my parents had always felt for me is incredible! I thought I had understood what their “I love you” meant, but when I got my first child I understood that no, I had gotten it all wrong. And my parents were always completely okay with that. As am I with my own children. I know they will not know how important they are for me until they get children of their own. And that’s okay, because the important thing is that they are happy ❤️

So, I’ve gotten 145 units of bitterness towards my parents, but 833 units of gratefulness.
Does that mean I’ve been made bitter? Yes and no, depending on whether you look at absolutely bitterness or net bitterness :)