I just had a kid of my own and I’m finding some feelings of resentment towards mom.

Like, there were some times where I didn’t receive the supervision I needed, or where I wasn’t taught certain life skills (because she was so busy with my siblings) and I just can’t imagine letting that happen with my baby.

Did you ever feel this way towards your parents when you had me? If so, how did you deal with it?

Thanks Pop.

  • greengnu@slrpnk.net
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    21 days ago

    I realized it was not about me but what was fair to you.

    You might not have known healthy and safe boundaries, so you got to meet them under conditions that I felt was appropriate (no getting drunk, stopping them from giving you scotch sort of thing).

    If they respected that you got to see them more but when they fell back into bad habits, you didn’t get to see them for a while.

    I know they always tried to use ice cream and cake to bribe you into liking them and why you wanted to visit them.

    So I am sorry if you feel you missed your chance to see them while they were alive because of me but I did it to protect you from their worst behaviors.