Yes, I know I can walk around it, hence the mildly infuriating. Still a d*ck move

  • Millie@lemm.ee
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    116
    arrow-down
    9
    ·
    edit-2
    1 year ago

    Okay, so as a cab driver I have a lot of opportunities to get frustrated with how selfish and myopic people are. But you know what happens when I do that? I make myself miserable.

    I, personally, find that my mental state is much, much better the more I’m willing to accept people not doing things ‘the right way’. Yes, I could get annoyed for the hypothetical people who might encounter an obstacle to their mobility here (who have not and may not ever arrive), but what will that actually do for me or for anyone else?

    Unless I’m actually moving the obstacle my disapproval is completely useless. It may even cause me to do something stupid and inconsiderate myself as I become distracted by my annoyance.

    But if I just let it go, smile, and move on, the utter insignificance of the action can just fade into the background and not make itself part of my focus on how to reflect on humanity or my day.

    • ParsnipWitch@feddit.de
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      6
      arrow-down
      2
      ·
      edit-2
      1 year ago

      Yes, I could get annoyed for the hypothetical people who might encounter an obstacle to their mobility here (who have not and may not ever arrive), but what will that actually do for me or for anyone else?

      You could move the bikes for that hypothetical person. I can not move a bike like that because of my disability.

      Personally I could pass those at the side, but I have friends who need a walking aid or wheelchair who probably couldn’t. Vehicles parked in the middle of the way are a regular road block. It is often because people without disabilities can’t (or won’t) imagine that people who can’t move a bike or climb over a scooter exist.

    • androidul@lemmy.ml
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      3
      arrow-down
      7
      ·
      edit-2
      1 year ago

      I heard it’s psichologically unhealthy to hide them in your darkest parts of mind, after all they’re just sitting there in your subconscious without you knowing it. Frustration will keep gathering though, please speak to your friends, family or therapist about these issues before depression hits.

      • Steve@compuverse.uk
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        11
        ·
        1 year ago

        If you suppress it, letting it fester, you’re right. But that’s not what they’re talking about.

        They’re describing actually letting it go. Letting the emotions wash over you and dissipate naturally. It may look the same on the outside, but internally it’s very different. It’s by far the best skill for your mental health.