Or your dad could accept that he’s going to travel a tiny bit further than he originally intended, and reroute with a u-turn, or a block circle, or a parking lot turn, or something similar. No invasive lane change. No need to apologise for an invasive lane change. No need for a special horn to communicate an apology for an invasive lane change. You don’t need to apologise for something you don’t make into someone else’s problem.
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I would advise you not to ruminate on the incident, even with the friend. Just hang out and chat with them. It’s about reminding yourself you are not defined by what one particular person felt about you on one particular day. When you are feeling that urge to hide away and shut down, you need someone to connect with, face to face if possible, on a voice call at barest minimum. Just connect.
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Patient Gamers@sh.itjust.works•Weekly Recommendations Thread: What are you playing this week?
8·1 day agoGot my first win in Noita recently by stopping attempts to do more interesting variations and just going to the ending boss. Now to figure out New Game +, the metaprogression of the orbs, the suns, parallel worlds, and the myriad ‘lesser’ bosses.
Do you have someone you can trust to talk to in person, like a friend? Sometimes the best balm for the burn of a rejection is the acceptance of a friend.
Inexpensive, and little setup, with no steep learning curve?
Off the top of my head:
- singing
- drawing
- playing a tin whistle
- dorodango
- dexterity games (card flourishes, astrojax, yoyo, pen spinning, etc.)
- reading
- kumihimo
- customising things with paint markers
- yoga
- whetstoning
- writing (prose or poetry)
- journaling/journalism
- cross stitch/embroidery
- jelqing
- rock/object balancing
- meditation
- knife throwing
- macramé (using beading floss)
- playing the spoons
- whittling
- eating
- scrimshaw
- nålbinding
- henna tattooing
- primping
- cloudgazing
- looking at fucking everything through a high mag loupe
- tarot divination
- contact juggling
- kefir making
- key duplication by hand
- sleeping
- hiking
- floccinaucinihilipilification
- origami
- talking to nearby friendly looking strangers
- polishing
- cleaning
- caligraphy
- drugless hallucination
- soapbox public speaking
- zen gardening
- guerilla gardening
- pitch ear training
- ‘easter egg’ hiding
- local botanical/ecological studies
- flint knapping
- home/interior design (as long as you don’t actually buy anything)
- knolling
- marble running
- solo RPGs like ‘Alone Among The Stars’ (okay this one wasn’t technically off the top of my head. I couldn’t remember the name, so I looked it up.)
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Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•What's the most unforgivable sin done in media that you're still bitter about?
21·2 days agoThe invention and continued allowance of advertising-supported media. It has done nothing but harm.
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Mildly Infuriating@lemmy.world•The prices of these NFL games…nope.English
5·2 days agoThere will be people at that game living one missed paycheck away from a personal financial crash who put those tickets on a credit card and will be paying it off with minimum payments for months or years.
Crunchy!
‘Bruh, we literally all came from the poop organisms that survived on space rocks from that one planet that exploded a Brazilian years ago. Why are you being weird?’
Joke answer: condom, in case the driver is very grateful
Real answer: I don’t see a good light on that list. Even in daylight, it can be quite dark in an engine compartment. Trying to use your phone as a flashlight and use a tool at the same time is awful.
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Mildly Infuriating@lemmy.world•My student loan is gaining interest while I'm in school but I'm not allowed to start paying it off yetEnglish
6·7 days agoOften enough, even with the degree, you can end up no better off for some time. If you don’t get a degree and make x/yr, or you get the degree, spend 6~8 years in school and looking for a position that pays 2x/yr but you spend half of the money on paying down your debt for 20 years… That’s a long time to get back into the black, assuming you even went for a degree leading to a position that will pay that much. It is almost criminal that a credit hour learning to work on machine learning systems often has the same cost as one spent learning about art history. Both are valuable to society in their own ways, but they definitely won’t get you the same paycheck, and the cost of entry should reflect that.
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science@lemmy.world•LLMs and Humans are Cognitive Cousins – Sean Carroll podcast w/Dr. Chandra SripadaEnglish
11·7 days agoYou can look at a pair of meshed gears and understand it just as readily as you can understand a single transformation by running the math on paper with a pencil, but I don’t think anyone will ever be able to comprehend the fullness of any useful-scale model for the same reason they would never comprehend a clockwork with the same number of gears as an LLM has transformers or indices. It’s a non-intuitable space with too much complexity which cannot be simplified without oversimplifying.
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science@lemmy.world•LLMs and Humans are Cognitive Cousins – Sean Carroll podcast w/Dr. Chandra SripadaEnglish
3·8 days agoOne activity occurs in a hazily understood chemical system with near completely unobservable states in interplay with activities and systems which have effects on the main system that are barely recognized, much less fully understood. The other is a constructed, completely defined system with near total observability of states affected by probabilities based on inputs defined by human written, completely known tokenization systems.
Will they next speculate about the similarity of ‘preferences’ between a robot from Japan and the nearest non-terrestrial intelligent species?
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science@lemmy.world•LLMs and Humans are Cognitive Cousins – Sean Carroll podcast w/Dr. Chandra SripadaEnglish
2·8 days ago*auto-complete
Hey, babe, look. We got a freebie from the co-op.
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pics@lemmy.world•Little guy scared the crap out of me this morning.
3·8 days ago‘Sup. Got mouse?’
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Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•How old were you the first time you wanted to earn your own money?
2·9 days agoI have never wanted to earn money. I have only been forced to do so by the need and desire to spend it.




I have low affect so it’s usually along the lines of “Wow, so you aren’t going to wear my skin like a mask. You’re actually nice. I never would have guessed.”